The title of this blog comes from Anne Sexton’s wonderful poem of faith and love “Small Wire,” which borrows in turn from Wordsworth: “Love and a cough cannot be concealed.”

I wish I had more philosophical reasons for selecting it — with friends and colleagues I proposed roughly 700,000 rejected blog names — but I ended up settling on it for three reasons.

1) I believe that truth will, eventually, be told.  Love is the truest truth there is, of course, and I hope in all my writing, about family and religion and God and sex and relationships and politics and culture, that Love will be manifest, that truth will be told.

2) I coughed a lot as a kid.  Every winter for roughly twenty years I had case after case of bronchitis, pneumonia, asthma, what have you.  If I learned one thing, it’s that a cough will be coughed.

3) I love the last lines of Sexton’s poem so very much:

[God] will enter your hands

as easily as ten cents used to

bring forth a Coke. 

I’m a pastor, a mom, a wife, a writer, a preacher’s kid…

I studied at Boston University and the University of Chicago, was ordained a United Methodist, and now serve in a congregation of the United Church of Christ.  My views are, of course, my own.

I’m glad you’re here, and grateful for whatever conversation arises on these pages.


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My twitter tagline is "Fiercely interested in most things." Writer, mom, pastor, spouse, daughter, sister, citizen -- not in any order, and usually all at once. Nearly life-long resident of Cook County, IL, for better and for worse.

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  3. Vivian Newkirk says:

    I purchased a copy of your book Good Christian Sex:Why Chastity Isn’t the Only Option and Other things the Bible Says About Sex.
    If I had had your kind words sixty years ago my marriage wouldn’t have been a difficult journey. Often my husband said, “Religion has ruined your thinking.!” I knew it but I strove all my teen years trying to model my life under the parameters my Baptist ministers who insisted we young girls determine our sexual lives. They never said, “When you get married then you can drop the restrictions.” I missed out on several happy times sharing with dear boyfriends. This was 1950s, a terrible time to grow into an adult. I had no guidance from Mother because she was innocent when she married at 18. I married at 25, afraid to enter into a contract until I felt comfortable. With my fiancee I had sexual relations a few months before we married and I fell on my knees asking God’ s forgiveness. My children grew up more normally, because my adhering to the church’s teachings separated them away from regular attendance and now have their own spirituality. I joined the Episcopal Church and that eased many “sins” I suffered, i.e. not always attending Sunday church, failing to support in participation, and the like. I became bitter and finally left the church in attendance. At 84 years old I am turning to God for his help in the last years of the lives of my husband and me. He said when he had prostate problems, “Well, I guess you’re happy!” We passed forty-five years of togetherness. Only at fifty years of marriage did we find a common path.

    Many, many thanks for writing sensible words, meaningful words. I’ll go to my death regretting making a wonderful man so unhappy all these years.

  4. Iona Reid-Dalglish says:

    I read and bought your book ‘Good Christian Sex’ and want to say thank you so much for writing it! It’s added a much needed voice, grounded in the reality of sexual intimate relating today, that I haven’t heard anywhere else in Christian circles. It has been hugely encouraging and helpful and thought provoking for me, and several friends. I am based in the UK, but do you happen to run workshops or know of good workshops on intimacy and faith which are equally grounded? Seems to be a lack here at least and I’m very interested in exploring it all. I work in spirituality and am especially interested in young adult formation so its a prime topic. Id love to even Have a conversation if you were able. Thank you anyway.

    1. Bromleigh says:

      I’m so sorry to be so slow in seeing this — shoot me an email at bromleighm at gmail dot com if you’re still interested.

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